Emotionally Focused Therapy

I first learned about EFT from reading Sue Johnson's book "Hold Me Tight" and during my quarantine in Hong Kong, I started reading her new book "Love Sense". Attachments are all about emotional attunement. From the trainings I attended, I know that I have both anxious and avoidant tendencies. It's like I'm craving closeness and love but that closeness is kind of scary and I need to withdraw because it's too much. I'm watching an old training video from Sue Johnson "Broken Bonds" and how I wished I fit neatly into a withdrawer or a pursuer role. Ultimately, communication and mutual understanding is key. Not just talking about whatever is on our minds, but explaining how we experience the relationship, how it feels to be you. Emotions are not irrational. Even when reactions are induced by historical trauma, that emotional reaction is not irrational. It makes sense given the history.