How it looks, not how it feels

I often fall into the trap of doing things or making decisions based on how things look rather than how it feels. I end up doing a lot of things that look really amazing but end up feeling tired and exhausted. A very good example is all the fashion events I used to go to a few years ago. I loved attending fashion events, I like the photo ops, I like the free gifts, I like seeing pretty looking products, but there are some not so great people at these events. I recall one time I went to a Fendi party and was lining up for the photo booth. I had to rush for my flight to Italy that night so I asked the people in front of me if I can go first. Instead of saying no, they just turned around and pretended they didn't hear anything. They just ghosted me. Also, you tend to meet influencers who are only concerned about taking photos for their followers but you can't hold a real conversation with them. You end up talking about other events they went to and how it was. It is emotionally exhausting because there's very little substance in these conversations. 

At another drinks gathering of influencers and celebrities, I chatted with various people and realise majority of them are lacking attention and confidence and really enjoy talking about themselves without asking a single question about me. In some ways, it's easy to befriend them, you just need to be a good listener and ask about them because they love talking about themselves so much. On the other hand, did you really befriend them or connect with them? They just dumped their issues all over you -- especially when you tell them that you're a part-time psychotherapist.

Back to my original question, do I enjoy spending time with these people? I mean honestly I don't really enjoy majority of them, but is it just about the people? I still love the free gifts and seeing the beautiful products and decor.